Winning

Winning

Old English winnan “strive”, “contend” also “subdue and take possession of”, “acquire”, of Germanic origin.

We live in a society where winning seems to be a categorical imperative, where failure is considered a defeat, and the only way to be appreciated and recognised is to win at any cost. Winning provides an opportunity to show off our positive attributes, to increase our self-esteem and to demonstrate our talent and intelligence. The focus is on winning and not on learning, on the outcome and not on the process. The action itself is not appreciated, regardless of the outcome, but what we do is appreciated, as long as success is able to validate how skilful we are. But sometimes we win and sometimes we learn to do better next time.

But what does winning mean?
The dictionary definition: to achieve a result of superiority over others in a competition.
We hardly ever think of success in absolute terms, but we relate our victories and defeats to the mistakes and failures of others, to what others have achieved and to what we believe we deserve.

Is it possible to achieve a result of superiority over others, by losing?
According to Dino Notte “life is an immense game of chess, the important thing is not to win or lose, but to be a player and not a pawn. Since the player is the advocate of his own destiny even in defeat, while the pawn is a victim of events even in victory”.

Only by daring to lose do we give ourselves permission to learn. The surest way to win is always to try one more time, to give your best effort. We need humility and courage, we need to take risks, have the ability to change and dare to lose in order to win.